When I asked a friend what the most significant takeaway was for her from the 12 Keys for Marriage success course, she said, “He’s not the problem.”
People, including our husbands, respond to our words, comments and actions. But, if we’re cranky, irritable, critical, or not listening, they often tune us out.
Being married doesn’t mean we have the right to change our husbands. It’s not our job to give them a make-over.
It’s God’s job to work in our guys and make them more like the men He wants them to be.
At the same time, God’s working in us and rubbing our rough edges off, showing us the places where we need to work.
In this video, I share how we can tell if we are at least part of the problem when our marriages feel sluggish or downright uncomfortable.
You May Be the Problem If:
- You want him to change first – Do Unto others as you’d like them to do for you. See Matthew 7:12.
- You’re unhappy with yourself – I need to love yourself before you can genuinely love others. See Matthew 22:39.
- You fight over the same things – You don’t know who to resolve the conflicts in your relationship.
- You assume the worst – If we expect bad things, we interpret the situation negatively and only see what’s wrong.
- You can’t admit you’re wrong
- You think you can change him
- You assume you’re not the problem
Watch the video to get more details on why we might be part of the problem.
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