Hubby or Kids Which Comes First

Where do children fit into a marriage? Many women mix up their priorities and place the children at a higher level than their husbands.

Most children grow up, move out, and leave home. We want our marriages to last beyond the child-rearing years so we can enjoy life as couples again and focus on each other.

If we allow the children to zap all our energy, our marriages won’t provide the joy and fulfillment we desire.

One morning, you might discover you live with a man you don’t even know or like any longer. Relationships like these often fall apart when the kids leave home.

Children feel warm and cuddly but consume an enormous amount of time. These gifts from God will take over our lives and cause strife in our marriages if we let them.

5 Ways to Save Time for Him

1. Decide today to place your mate ahead of the children. Maintain the proper order in your marriage. Our husbands come before the children.
2. Ask God to help you keep your husband in his proper place. Fulfill his needs; social, sexual, and emotional, then meet the children’s demands.
3. Take time to rest! It takes planning and a commitment to set aside time to take care of yourself and relax. You are worth it, and so is your marriage.
4. Spend time together. Couples who won’t make time for the two of them fill their lives with boredom, frustration, anger, and resentment.
5. Touch your mate at least 10 minutes a day. Sit next to him, hold his hand, snuggle, kiss hug, and save time for sex at least once a week.

Our husbands aren’t ogres because they want time with us.

They love the children too, but our kids aren’t supposed to be our primary focus. Our husband is.

Forgive me for all those times I gave my partner only what was left after everybody, and everything else had had its share. ~Steve Stephens