Updated in December 2025, initially posted in December 2021.
What I expected to happen at Christmas didn’t happen. My high expectations ultimately ruined the holiday. There was no joy or peace as we gathered to give thanks and celebrate the birth of Christ.
Instead, I found myself running out of time and energy, wanting to avoid people altogether. The stress of the holidays became so overwhelming that I lost my desire to celebrate Christmas.
Then I reminded myself that Jesus is the Prince of Peace, and He came to bring us peace.
And the peace I give is a gift the world cannot give. So don’t be troubled or afraid. ~John 14:27
Your Choice:
1. Buy More Gifts Than You Can Afford or Stay Within Your Budget
We created a budget and planned how much money we would spend on the holidays without going into debt. By limiting the number of gifts and travel expenses, we were able to stay within our budget.
2. Make All of Your Favorite Holiday Treats or Spread Them Out Through the Season
We each selected our favorite treats and designated one Saturday for baking. We prepared some of our favorites for Thanksgiving and New Year’s, allowing us to share the work and enjoy the baking process together.
3. Spend Days Decorating or Limit the Decorations to Your Favorites
We chose one Saturday to tackle the decorations and divided the work into tasks that could be completed in a single day. My husband and sons took care of the tree and outside decorations while I focused on decorating the inside of the house.
4. Ignore Selfcare or Plan to Take Care of Yourself Over the Holidays
Limiting our activities outside the house allowed us to get enough rest. We prioritized what was most important to us and chose not to attend everything at church or with friends.
5. No Time for Dates or Downloading the Holiday Dates eBook
Over the years, we found ways to fit dates into our weekly schedule even during the holidays. I’ve captured several of these ideas in the eBook Holiday Dates. By transforming everyday activities into special outings, we were able to maintain our connection with each other.
6. Visiting Everyone at Christmas or Alternating Family Groups
We decided to visit one family each year, or they came to our home for Christmas. As empty nesters, we planned to see extended family during Thanksgiving. On a Saturday before or after Christmas, we hosted a dinner at our home or a restaurant with our immediate family.
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