Try the Esther plan when you want to ask for something big from your husband.
These simple instructions from Queen Esther of asking the king for a big request provide a good template for asking our husbands what we want. ~Esther chapters 4 and 5.
- Pray one to three days before you discuss the problem with your husband. Then, ask God for wisdom as you strive to understand your husband’s point of view on the topic. Understanding what the other person is saying helps us ask for what we want
- Select an evening free from distractions for dinner and an in-depth conversation with your mate.
- Put the children to bed early or talk when they’re out of the house.
- Feed your guy one of his favorite meals.
- Describe how you feel and what you want with “I” statements. For example, I feel, or I want. Ask for specifics, such as if they’d be willing to help with the baths at bedtime or want to hear about some vacation ideas you’ve researched.
- Offer what compromises you are willing to make. Remember, the best resolutions to our problems leave both people feeling good. The willingness to compromise is what helps build working team-type relationships as you share together, building a healthy marriage. Listen when he speaks and consider his point of view before you say anything more.
- Continue the conversation until you reach a resolution or set another date to resolve the problem.
- Even if you can’t establish a positive outcome yet, show your man how much you appreciate him with plenty of affection and touching.
Do everything without complaining and arguing. ~ Philippians 2:14
