Try the Esther plan when you want to ask for something big from your husband.
These simple instructions from Queen Esther of how she asked the king for a big request provide a good template for asking our husbands what we want. ~Esther chapters 4 and 5.
- Pray one to three days before you discuss the problem with your husband. Then, ask God for wisdom and understand your husband’s point of view on the topic.
- Select an evening free from distractions for dinner and an in-depth conversation with your mate.
- Put the children to bed early or talk when they’re out of the house.
- Feed your guy one of his favorite meals.
- Describe how you feel and what you want with “I” statements. For example, I feel, or I want.
- Offer what compromises you are willing to make. The best resolutions to our problems leave both people feeling good.
- Listen when he speaks and consider his point of view before you say anymore.
- Continue the conversation until you reach a resolution or set another date to resolve the problem.
- Even if you can’t establish a positive outcome yet, show your man how much you appreciate him with plenty of affection and touching.
Do everything without complaining and arguing. ~ Philippians 2:14
